EE: What are the steps to take in the search for a life partner?
DMP: That is a big question! Briefly, marriage was created by God to provide companionship for the first man Adam, and to provide a stable background for bringing up children (see Genesis 2:18 and 1:28). Jesus says it was intended to be for life (Matthew 19:3–6).
In the Old Testament, God insisted His people must only marry people who shared their beliefs. They were not allowed to marry Canaanites, who worshipped idols (Deuteronomy 7:1–4). In the New Testament the Apostle Paul similarly advises Christians not to yoke themselves to unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). So we should always seek a marriage partner who is a fellow believer in Christ.
During courtship, believers are expected to remain virgins until they are married (1 Corinthians 7:36). Sex outside marriage is forbidden (Galatians 5:19–21).
Ephesians 5:22–28 contains some rules for a married couple. They must treat each other as ‘one flesh’ i.e. as if they are the same person. This involves self-sacrifice, forgiveness, and true Christian love. They must be faithful to their partner. Divorce in order to re-marry is forbidden (Hebrews 13:4 and Matthew 19:9).
Parents are instructed to teach their children about God (Deuteronomy 6:6–7 and Ephesians 6:4), and children are to show respect for their parents (Colossians 3:20). There is a lot more that could be written on this subject!
